Loneliness

One of the biggest epidemic hitting our generation is not any disease by loneliness itself. It’s time we acknowledge the elephant in the room. Loneliness is a dirty word carrying a stigma of shame. Loneliness does not stem from solitude per se. You can be surrounded by 100 people and still feel lonely. The major reason for this loneliness is the technology and how hooked we are to our smartphones all the time. Most of us have forgotten what it’s like to make human contact and connect with another human being. It’s so much easier to maintain virtual connections, even blocking people online is 1000x better than dealing with an uncomfortable conversation in person.

Reliance on consumption instead of connection is killing us

Some people who are socially isolated don’t necessarily feel lonely, and some people who are lonely are surrounded by people who make them feel more alienated, not less.Having said that Isolation can be killer. A strong physical and mental regime is needed to offset the impacts. Awareness is the first step towards the solution.While it feels like opening a Pandora box of problems for employers to resolve, a well devised ‘system’ can resolve most of responsibilities.

Lack of human connection and warm relationships has turned us into zombies trudging through our day.Life has lost meaning because there is less to experience physically than be intoxicated into a world of our creation. Black mirror is a great example of where society and civilisation is headed.

There is a study that states that loneliness is as a bad as smoking 15 cigarettes a day. We are responsible to take care of our emotional and mental well being. A large population of remote workers, stay at home spouses and old parents are at risk of suffering from loneliness and depression.As you age it becomes harder to make friends. The need to share with one another is ingrained in our DNA.Our brain is wired to help us make more connections,when something unforeseen happens we have a strong urge to share. This strong urge stems from the underlying need for survival. Our brain knows what’s best for us.

Wherein lies the conundrum: How can you meaningfully articulate the experience of being alive if you yourself are only in tune with the broken clockwork of your own anxiety, the echo chamber of your own skull?

The western world tells us to know ourselves and to be social. Contradicting its own facts we never learnt how to be alone with ourselves. Most of us are so scared of solitude we would rather hang out with people whose company we don’t even enjoy to avoid feeling bored.When you surround yourself with moments of solitude and stillness, you become intimately familiar with your environment in a way that forced stimulation doesn’t allow.

Loneliness is a self inflicted wound.You have the strength to heal it.“Social isolation is the best-established, most robust social or psychological risk factor for disease out there. Nothing can compare.”

Would love to hear your thoughts, share them in comments down below or write to me at theclosetweekly@gmail.com.

XX,Akansha

Letting Go of Ego

Starve the ego. Feed the soul.

Letting go of our ego is an exercise to finding fulfillment, peace, and calmness in our lives. Ego is an identity we create for ourselves.its a self-image we have created to help survive the harsh realities of day to day life. Ego is comparing our positive attributes to someone’s worst attributes and the other way around. We have gotten so busy attaching labels to everything, marking everything in the world that we have forgotten who we are, why we are here on this planet earth and what’s our life’s purpose.

We complain all the time, we are so unsatisfied with almost everything around us that we fail to enjoy what we have. Ego makes us believe that we are not enough or that we don’t have enough. Ego is behind our eyes and our knees, manifests itself in different kinds of behavior. Online selfies, using social media for gratification and approval. Addressing the symptom not the root cause has become our daily part of our life.

Let’s deep dive into how we can keep our ego under control. Performing selfless deeds and adding value not just to us but also those around us. Being in the present and truly grateful for what we have is another great way to break out of the habit of complaining. We need to consciously watch our whinging, whether it’s online or in person. We have to learn to accept things as they are and let go of anything not in our control. This also means we reflect and not react to every unfavorable situation out there.

On the highest throne in the world we sit only on our own bottom — Michael de Montaigue

Shift your focus from what should be to what is and appreciate your gifts. Ego destroys relationships, a powerful 3 letter enemy. Don’t feed your ego, take the high road and stay happy.

Ego is the false sense of who we are. It is incredibly fragile and subject to self-judgment. One meager and almost insignificant action can cause our ego to come back cowering with its tail between its legs because it failed to live up to what we think others want us to be. Our ego enjoys feigning perfection. It likes to say the right thing at the right time to make the right impression. There is no depth to that false sense of who we are. They ego is born out of self-doubt and insecurity.

Hope you enjoyed reading. Share your thoughts in the comments down below or write to me at theclosetweekly@gmail.com

XX,Akansha

50 Things to Be Happy About

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Well you don’t really need a reason to be happy. But with the capitalistic and materialistic society we live in , we need “reasons” to be happy. so here is a list. Print it out and add it to your refrigerator. Let the gratefulness warm your hearts everyday.Do what makes you happy and you will never have a dull moment.Own less do more, think less, worry less be happy.Being happy already you will suddenly realise that the things you were always seeking did not matter so much after all…

Let go of things that worry you, frustrate you or make you sad. Practise mindfulness and feel centred. Practise deep breathing in times of panic, anxiety and distress. With that in mind, let’s take a quick look at 50 classic “list” things to be happy about. Make your own list of things or just use this list of reasons to be happy (and maybe even spread a little link love).The secret sauce to happiness is being content and grateful for what you already have. Remember on a bad day, ..

“Surrender to what is , make peace with what was and have faith in what will be”

Live each day as your last and you will never have any regrets in life.Do more of what makes you happy and what sets your soul on fire.Happiness is silence and reflection. Increase your proximity from negative people.Live a life where you compare yourself with your past self not others. Start taking control of your life by taking the responsibility for what happened to you in the past and the present. Quit complaining and the constant habit of winning. pageI am also linking a happy printable planner (from Pinterest) for you to later work on. Stop trying to impress everyone, thats the perfect recipe for sadness. Also set daily goals and work on achieving them.

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Here goes the list.

1. For being healthy

2. For being able to see, touch, smell, taste and hear everything around us

3. For having a roof over my head

4. For having enough to eat

5. Being able to follow your passion

6. Having the freedom to travel

7. On giving & receiving kindness

8. Having enough money to get by each day

9. People who you care & love

10. Special Moments and Memories

11. Victories and small wins

12. Blooming flowers & buzzing bees

13. The sound of birds chirping

14. Sunshine

15. Air,Water and access to both

16. Cupcakes & coffee

17. Pretty Shoes

18. Warm hugs & kisses

19. Interwebs make you more connected

20. Hot Coffee in the Morning

21. Umbrella in the Rain

22. Walk by the Ocean

23. Early Morning Jog

24. Chocolate in all forms

25. Lavender scented candles

26. Discounts when shopping

27. Flowers & Ikibana

28. Pottery & Paintings

29. Watching waves in the sea

30. Swimming

31. Doing Yoga everyday

32. Playing with little kids

33. Making your dear ones feel special

34. Feeling Loved

35. Cooking a lovely meal

36. Playing with a Fluffy Pet

37. Connecting & sharing with others

38. Buzzing bees and Cicadas

39. Fireworks on Christmas & New Year

40. Watching your favourite team win

41. Lighting Diyas on Diwali

42. Weekend DIYs

43. Binge Watching on Netflix

44. Movie Marathon on Weekends

45. Game of Thrones all the way

46. Reading a Good Book under the Shade of a Tree

47. Taking a hike through the wilderness

48. Cycling on the mountain trail

49. Watering your Garden

50. For being alive !!

Don’t PROCRASTINATE and live in the present. Wallowing about the past or fretting about the future not only robs your today of happiness it also depletes your energy to take action.

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Hope you enjoyed reading. Visit my website www.theclosetweekly.com for more if you like. And , don’t go without downloading this free printable , link. Happy Diwali and share your thoughts in comments down below, or shoot me an email mailto: theclosetweekly@gmail.com.If you’re on Facebook, please give a thumbs up !

Much Love

Akansha

How to Manage Yourself During the Pandemic

Besides the virus-induced pandemic raging the world we are also dealing with one of the biggest epidemics hitting our generation is not any disease by loneliness itself. Its time we acknowledge the elephant in the room. With every person being a potential carrier of the coronavirus which till-date has no cure, we are forced to quarantine and physical distance from our near and dear ones. Loneliness is a dirty word carrying a stigma of shame. Loneliness does not stem from solitude per se.

You can be surrounded by 100 people and still feel lonely. The major reason for this loneliness is a technology and how hooked we are to our smartphones all the time. Most of us have forgotten what it’s like to make human contact and connect with another human being. It’s so much easier to maintain virtual connections, even blocking people online is 1000x better than dealing with an uncomfortable conversation in person.

Reliance on consumption instead of connection is killing us

Some people who are socially isolated don’t necessarily feel lonely, and some people who are lonely are surrounded by people who make them feel more alienated, not less. Having said that Isolation can be a killer. A strong physical and mental regime is needed to offset the impacts. Awareness is the first step towards the solution. While it feels like opening a Pandora box of problems for employers to resolve, a well-devised ‘system’ can resolve most of the responsibilities.

Lack of human connection and warm relationships has turned us into zombies trudging through our day.Life has lost meaning because there is less to experience physically than be intoxicated into a world of our creation. Black mirror is a great example of where society and civilisation is headed.

There is a study that states that loneliness is as a bad as smoking 15 cigarettes a day. We are responsible to take care of our emotional and mental well being. A large population of remote workers, stay at home spouses and old parents are at risk of suffering from loneliness and depression.As you age it becomes harder to make friends. The need to share with one another is ingrained in our DNA.Our brain is wired to help us make more connections,when something unforeseen happens we have a strong urge to share. This strong urge stems from the underlying need for survival. Our brain knows what’s best for us.

Wherein lies the conundrum: How can you meaningfully articulate the experience of being alive if you yourself are only in tune with the broken clockwork of your own anxiety, the echo chamber of your own skull?


The western world tells us to know ourselves and to be social. Contradicting its own facts we never learnt how to be alone with ourselves. Most of us are so scared of solitude we would rather hang out with people whose company we don’t even enjoy to avoid feeling bored.When you surround yourself with moments of solitude and stillness, you become intimately familiar with your environment in a way that forced stimulation doesn’t allow.

Loneliness is a self inflicted wound.You have the strength to heal it.“Social isolation is the best-established, most robust social or psychological risk factor for disease out there. Nothing can compare.”

Would love to hear your thoughts, share them in comments down below or write to me akansha.2389@gmail.com

Akansha