Are You Facing Quarter Life Crisis?

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The quarter life crisis is a period of intense soul searching and stress ranging from twenties to thirties, in which a person begins to feel doubtful about their own lives, brought on by the stress of becoming an adult.In our culture, there is intense pressure to be in a flourishing career by your mid-twenties, to be married to the ‘right’ girl or guy and be well on the way to be fulfilling family and society’s expectations.Then there is the comparison trap which is never ending.Societal pressure is too intense for youngsters to cope up with.Depression, frustration, detachment, fear of failure, feeling of being stuck in a rut, escapism are common symptoms of people suffering from Quarter Life Crisis.

 

 
Quite a few of us are away from our hometown and are struggling to grapple with the real world. You miss home but rarely admit it, hiding the longing behind a facade of bravery and necessity. For those of you who are still in your hometown,  you need to struggle harder to change life in your own terms amidst those known faces with judgmental eyes pointing at the ticking clock.Why does your life need to be in turbo boost mode the moment you enter your twenties.What is the rush to get the dream job, get the experience you need, get into the grad school, get married, have kids get settled, why so much hurry.Was there a rush to skip classes 1 through 12 and directly enter undergrad studies? Why don’t you take the time now to find your niche instead of simply working to make a living and surviving?

 

Lost Scared Confused Lonely … 4 words to describe Quarter-Life Crisis.Unfortunately due to lack of emotional support and proper mentoring a lot of youngsters cave in and start on a path to self destruction.There are systems in place to help people transition in terms of education but there is no aid available for teenagers to transition into their adulthood in their twenties.First remember if you are 24 you are just starting your life.You might stumble , might make a few bad decisions,might not land the best job you wanted but that’s okay ! this is just the beginning, a whole bunch of experiences are just waiting for you.Don’t just say passion say passion with persistence.You can’t go on a insanity rant for passion wouldn’t get you far,persistently working on your passion will.

 

Constant pestering and self-criticism can leave anyone feeling drained out.What next is a question 20 something adults always keep asking themselves and get lost in search of answers.Its a futile measure of over-thinking and living with limitations.Things like zoning out thinking what am I doing with my life are just NOT required, you are living your LIFE , enjoying every aspect of it and rediscovering yourself at every stage.Its important to get in a  strong relationship with yourself and understand yourself before making life-changing rash decisions of a career choice,life-partner choice, career specialization choice.To get that kind of emotional maturity and intelligence it takes time so go with the flow and don’t try to ruin these awesome years of your life with worry and stress.
When you find the path of your dreams and the path of making money not converging you don’t need to freak out.Its okay to start small and gain as much experience as you can.Accomplish things that you can’t put a price tag on,travel more,make friends,get a new hobby,have a life.When the time comes that you get the dream job you want ,f but it turns out your never enjoyed your life and never found a way to recharge yourself you will feel sorry for yourself.What will you do with money if you only know how to earn it but not how to spend it?

 

Are you facing Quarter Life Crisis? First step to solving a problem is acknowledging that you have one.Make peace with yourself and don’t be so hard on yourself.You are not alone, almost everyone goes through the struggles of adulthood before they learn to deal with it.Read about the lives of people you think are successful or famous, everyone in this world has faced struggles and experiences failure.Don’t fear failure because it teaches you humility and makes you resilient. It helps you learn and grow.Let the dissatisfaction with your life guide you to make the necessary changes to carve out the perfect happy life you want.

 

Now lets talk about how you can power through Quarter-Life Crisis.If you find yourself completely consumed by negative emotions try to channel that energy into a medium that helps you vent out.It can be pruning your garden,going for a jog in the morning, writing a journal, starting a blog, practicing yoga and meditation,playing a new sport,volunteering for social work, it could be anything.Find a mentor and a sponsor for yourself with whom you can speak your hearts out and not stay bottled in with emotions.Don’t become a victim of your circumstances  but use the adversity at hand to make it into a opportunity.Example if you got laid off for any reason use that as an opportunity to travel, explore possibilities you never thought you could use your time effectively to do things you love and are truly passionate about; you might surprise yourself by your hidden potential.A lot of things that you deem unfortunate are a blessing in disguise so never lose hope or get disheartened.There is a silver lining in every cloud.

 

Be kind to yourself and treat yourself the way you would treat your friend.Give yourself auto-suggestions and train your mind.Don’t look back,don’t turn,don’t question the past, live in the present,march ahead, climb up higher and higher.Remember this is the time to fail,persevere then fall again then pick yourself up and rise.You will make mistakes, you will fall but you will learn.The failures of today will make success stories for tomorrow.
“Now I’ve learned, the hard way, that some poems don’t rhyme, and some stories don’t have a clear beginning, middle, and end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what’s going to happen next. Delicious Ambiguity.”― Gilda Radner

 

Hope you enjoyed reading, do share your thoughts and experiences in comments below or write to me at theclosetweekly@gmail.com

 

Much Love
Akansha

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